While there is no rule book that Cupid donates to you after he has struck the arrow, there still are some (read: silent) hard and fasts that you should keep in mind lest you travel through choppy waters in your relationship. Be aware you don't lose balance when sitting on one plank of the love seesaw. Here's making things wee-simpler, we give you a rundown on major relationship rules you just shouldn't mess with.
Avoid anything you'd not want him to do:
You've made things clear to him; he shouldn't talk with his ex, shouldn't go for those friday night basketball games with the boys, no late night talks for him with his girl friends... with all this and more, just remember one thing. Rules are meant to be the same for both of you. Don't think you'll set all the rules out for him and, side-by-side, happily keep in touch with that ex of yours or chat with your guy pals without letting him know.
Forget them not
Friends are the most crucial part of anyone's life. But the moment people enter into a relationship, they tend to forget their friends, ignoring them to the fullest. That is a complete no-no! Don't loosen ties with your pals just because you're hooked.
Say it when you mean it
We say communicate your heart out, but only when the time is right. Don't use that 'L' word for the sake of it, just because you have mistaken like for love. Contemplate on it clearly before expressing it to the other person.
Tattle to each other
Remember, it's just you and your partner who're in this relationship, so better keep any third person aside. If there's a problem that's irking you or your partner, try and sort it out among yourself rather than involve more people. Most problems don't need a third party involvement. So, keep the others out of this one.
Don't ever cheat
Bored? Well, try to spunk up that relationship, or else walk out of it. But don't you cheat! Cheating is no answer to boredom, and it is totally unacceptable. Make sure you tell your partner clearly that you're not happy with the way things are shaping up between the two of you, and sort it out, or else, walk out of it.
Compare not
Yes your ex must have been a darling! A gem-of-a-person none can match up to. But get the point, you ain't with that ex of yours. So, don't compare your current with your past. Instead, just be happy with what you've got at hand.
Take care if you don't want someone else to
He cares for you, but you can't invest time for them? Or you're unable to tell the person how much you love them? If you're not there for someone, chances are, someone else will be there for them. So, either care for your partner, or don't crib later if someone replaces you in their life.
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