I’m not oblivious of the fact that most issues of this nature are blamed on the men whom most of us see as womanizers; but mine is a different thing entirely. I’m not a womanizer. I have tried everything possible to make sure that this girl-my house girl leaves my house, but my wife will always insist she stays.
I’m a pastor, but I also work as a civil servant. I would have loved to write further about where I live, but for the same reason why I can’t mention my name, I can’t tell you where I’m writing from.
This young lady was brought to my house by my wife sometimes in 2010, and had just completed her secondary education last year. She is supposed to pick up a form for her higher education because she is related to my wife; distant relation, sort of.
Frankly, she has been very good, and has been taking care of my only daughter since my wife put to bed late last year. Her presence is a big relief to me and wife because we are both very busy people. My wife works with a bank, and sometimes come home around 8-9pm.
Lately, this young girl has summoned courage to seduce me; to be sincere, she is tempting me.
I often return to the house ahead of my wife. Sometimes, because of hold-up and other issues, I will get in around 5-6pm. She started by running to embrace me with her transparent-short gown to welcome me each time I knock, on arrival. I was shocked the very day she did that. I felt so embarrassed. “Even if I had traveled to space…hun! This one is just too much… hun!” I soliloquized in my bedroom after she had dropped my office bag and ran out to get my food. This continued for 3 weeks. Sometimes, her boobs will just slip out of her ‘top’ and she will simply apologize. My wife has never met her on that gown as she wears another cloth when it’s almost time for my wife to return. I have developed double minds about her. I have had different evil thoughts since this whole thing started. The one that happened last was the way she sat facing me, with her legs wide opened. I left the food that I was eating and walked to the bathroom to do nothing in particular. I had thought she would adjust as soon as I returned, but she didn’t budge. I think I fell into her trap finally that day. I almost had it with her when I grabbed her, and she jumped at me. We started that regrettable romance before God intervened with the sharp cry of my baby. That was what saved the day.
The next day, I had told my wife that we should send her away, but she vehemently refused to accept my suggestion. She had asked me to give some reasons why we should send her away, and I had told her that she was getting so stubborn and lazy; hence, she is as good as no House-help.
My wife who claimed she had never experienced that had accused me of formulating things against the lady. She told me that I wanted her out of the house because I had seen that she will soon secure admission into the higher institution, and I will soon begin to pay for her school fees. I couldn’t tell her the truth, because something tells me it will be disastrous. I just felt I could handle the matter in the most professional way. But right now, things have gone out of hands since the past 2 weeks. I have done virtually everything that can be considered dirty with her except that I have not done it with her yet. What’s keeping me from doing it is my conscience and for the fact that I can’t do that in my matrimonial home.
That sin will be so grievous, I know. She had asked me repeatedly last week if she can meet me in any of the hotels around town this weekend since my wife will be around then. She has just Saturday and Sunday to take care of her hair and visit friends, and she wants to use that opportunity to have me all to herself. Now, I’m contemplating on this issue. All I need is your advice; Saturday is just 5 days from today, and I can’t make up my mind on what to do. I love my wife, but I think I’m becoming so foolish in the name of being faithful. Please, tell me; should I do it or not? It has gotten to the level where I cannot tell my wife the truth because she won’t even believe, since I had told her a different story before. She will see it as blackmail. Your reaction will either encourage me or discourage me, even though my mind beats faster, and something tells me to do it. Should I?
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Talk to your wife let her know the truth and set the housegirl free een if she is your relative
did u jus mention that u are a pastor? assuming that a man came to u as a spiritual dad, what advice would u offer him when even u are so confused. i would suggest u first ask for Gods forgiveness, pray that u may not get into mo temptation than u already have, seek guidance from the bible, then talk about this to your wife without holding back. be like Joseph of the bible.
Hell no, tell your wife immediately................she will now blackmail you completely........................or your wife can use that to leave u.................
Pastors are now overtaking sinners.Look at you asking for advise on whether to sin or not?
Just. Do. It bt very safe boss of
You put your self into temptations. You truly don't love your wife cause if you did this could not be a tricky issue to you. Now that you've already gone far, please seek forgiveness and wisdom from God on how to handle this. I'd suggest you wait for your wife and go with her home every day and avoid every circumstances that may put you to temptations. Through this, you will find a way of revealing this to your wife. Remember everything of shame that you think you can do it secretly will always be revealed to the public by God. Pray too that you may not fall into temptations. God bless.
You put your self into temptations. You truly don't love your wife cause if you did this could not be a tricky issue to you. Now that you've already gone far, please seek forgiveness and wisdom from God on how to handle this. I'd suggest you wait for your wife and go with her home every day and avoid every circumstances that may put you to temptations. Through this, you will find a way of revealing this to your wife. Remember everything of shame that you think you can do it secretly will always be revealed to the public by God. Pray too that you may not fall into temptations. God bless.
eat her
weee uma kitu kwani ziliumbiwa ngombe, hata kenya constitution imekubali more than two wife why shy man do it save the lady from lust
The only solution to your predicant is fuck her hard. Make sure satisfy her. Be careful not to make her pregnant.
That the crash on you will drop. Hata paka mzee unywa maziwa brother.
waaa........wewe unabahati sana. Piga yeye boro sawa sawa. Atawachana na wewe. Halafu mtafutie nymba na umwekee biashara. Utukuwa unakula vitu pole pole
Give her your Juices. A woman is a woman. Even Abraham slept with the servant and still became great. God wants to bless you through her
approach the issue very consciously.you have one option either you love your wife or not.either you trust her or not.either you respect you marriage or not and above all either you love your family or not.by giving in to the temptation means your answer to all the questions is "not"and if you gain courage and avoid the date it means your answer to all the above questions is "yes"blonder about it and realize very early what your putting yourself into.worst of all you are a paster cherish your calling.NOW my advice is that use all the money you have budgeted for this date to take your wife to a good place and tell her everything about this issue and make her understand that it is time this lady leaves your good marriage in piece.
mmmm funny
In simple terms man of God....its just a demon nt the girl u knew befr...on friday...pray n fast if u can....as u go back hme....u wil find a diferent girl...
Confused pastor. Wake up to reality that u have started listening to her and u r giving in pole pole.your breaking point is approaching and every man has a weakness to women.KEEP YOUR DISTANCE
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Why is this gal so obsesssed wid u, pliz be cauutios maybe she is carrying the deadly virus n wants to infect u.....wake up to reality, u r the head of the family,right?jus send tat gal away
Being a pastor u shld dat dis iz da devil at work n once u start u'll nt b able 2 stop dont lt da satan destroy ua r/ship wit God.fast n pray n rebuke da devil.abt ua wife tel her da truth no matter da cnsequences only den wil ua concience b at peace
chapa yeye vitu.wekelea yako yote.
kwani
Screw the lights out of her...f#*k her like she owes you money!!!
This is the temptation of the devil. beware. maybe she is possessed and once u make love to her, u too will. this will be the beginning of your downfall in everything, especially marriage and your relationship with God. Tell your wife immediately and send her out of the house and your lives. This is Satan himself tempting you..listen to me and save you family. End the whole thing now. Go back to God and ask for forgiveness and control. usiseme sikukuambia. God bless you so much and protect your family in Jesus Name.
Though i am late to comment on this issue, let me just contribute with a view to corrct some of the comments already posted.
We are all religious in one way or the other and believes varies grreatly from one believer to the other. What you have done as a lay pastor is as good as having fufilled your desires with the young woman. The excuse of seeking advise on what you can do is useless at this stage. Having sex/going to bed with her now is just but the fulfilment of what has already taken place in your mind long before your wrote this post. Physical sex contact is by all means a sign of what has already taken place and not what has never entered into your mind.
So for me to think that you have not committed sin is a big lie before God and cheating on your wife atthe same time.
Just proceed and finish up by action you have already had sex with her in you mind and thoughts. It will not help you stopping from going to bed with her anymore its already done. Read carefully the laws of spirits in the bible. They are not unforseen beings but are evil thoughts in human minds.
You are already finished my brother just act physically its already done and say sorry to your wife.
Chasing away the girl will not help for you cannot chase away thoughts in your mind. You will be having sex with the girl everytime you think of her even if she is away.
sorry bro.
You want to be holier than Adam, shauri yako.
Kwani unalala kwa darasa?? piga huyo mtoi maji ya ukweli...mambo ya wife na maelezo ni baadaye.u ar lucky hata anakuonyesha miguu.change diet atleast ukule chicken from sukuma.NOTE THAT YOUR WIFE KNOWS HER WEAKNESES DATS WHY AMEKULETEA HUYU DADA KWA HAO...AKICHELEWA NJE USIHANYE BALI UKULE VILIVYO KARIBU. OR SEND ME HER NUMBER NIMUONYESHE.
I wonder what you have been waiting for all these days kula huyu mtoto proper or else she will become frustrated with you for not doing it n then she will finally blackmail that you tried it
wewe .... ukilala naye ujue huo ni umalaya, either you tell your wife the fact or else u will find yourself in that trap. then tatakuanika kwa media
NKT!